I usually encourage couples to find ways to apply into their relationship something positive from their daily activities. With Halloween around the corner it makes sense to think about what relationship lessons can be gained from Halloween. Here are a few I came up with. See if you can find others and share them with us.Read More
How do you keep your relationships fresh, alive, and passionate?
By cultivating 3 important factors:
The positive factor
The heart connection factor
The vulnerability factor.
Today we are going to talk about the Positive Factor, because almost every couple I work with is in a disheartening negative spiral and therefore in a funk of bad feelings.Read More
Life can be very fast pace at times and we all need a day to celebrate like this one. So go ahead, you can let yourself have this day for yourself. You deserve it. Just kick back and relax. Get rid of that hectic lifestyle and enjoy this day, alone or with your partner.
If you need ideas, check out the following 10 tips on relaxing to make celebrating this holiday a breeze:Read More
It is said that simplicity is the virtue of removing the extraneous to reveal the essence.
The beginning of August is National Simplify Your Life Week. It's a good time to streamline your home life. That's because simplicity is a test of whether you're clear about your priorities.
Our immediate environment is a reflection of our mindset - a neat and organized home reflects the discipline with which we approach our relationships. Clutter, on the other hand, betrays our sloppiness.
In a complex world, simplicity wins because it helps you be calmer, nicer, and make better decisions . I’m sharing 3 suggestions on how to simplify.
As the 4th of July gets close, I keep thinking about the interplay of 3 words in relationships: Dependence, Independence, and Interdependence.
Probably because English is not my native tong, whenever I think about words, I tend to go first to the dictionary to get the “official” meaning of the words. Pulling together what different dictionaries and Wikipedia say, and thinking about what the words may mean for couples, this is my take on these words.
Yes, this blog is about goal setting again! It's part of my mini-series about change. But don't freak out! And don't go away! I’m not repeating the same old stuff you’ve already seen many times the first week of this new year.
Most people think that goal setting is all about thinking what they want to accomplish this year. Then, write it down, and work backwards to create mini goals to make them actionable. Well yes. . . sort of. . . That's part of it. But the problem is that people work at this backwards. That's the last part. So, stay with me and things will become clear.Read More
Let me guess: You want to lose weight in 2018, or just eat healthier. Perhaps you want to spend less money or spend more time with your friends and family. Maybe you want to stop screaming and have a closer relationship with your partner instead. Whatever it is, Self-improvement, or at least the desire for it, is a shared American hobby.
Estimates say more than 40% of Americans make New Year's resolutions. But for all the good intentions, only a tiny fraction keep their resolutions. University of Scranton research suggests that just 8% of people achieve their New Year's goals.
You can be included on that 8%. This blogs explains how.Read More
Many people seek me because they want to change. Yet, not all of them are ready to change. Even the words you use when talking about change can have an impact on how ready you are to change and with being successful with change. Your vocabulary impacts your attitudes and actions. When it comes to change, words can make a huge difference.
Most people are not really committed to change. They commit just to try. . . And that doesn't work!
Find out what does work!Read More
Many times we talk about our desire to change. As the last month of the year progresses, we start taking inventory and thinking about what we need to change in the new year. We go back and forth between wanting to change and dreading the idea of change. You know deep down there are some things you really need to change, but how do you get ready to change? How can you get to that transformation that will signal you have really changed? It's really a lot easier to focus on what your partner needs to change!
Today's blog focuses on how to get ready for change.Read More
We are starting the last month of the year. As the year starts unwinding to it’s end, we tend to become more contemplative of our life and work. We take inventory. We weight opportunities. We think about change. . .
Unfortunately, after many years of doing the same, making new resolutions for the new year, and failing at them, many give up on change and on themselves. If you are like them, you think about change, but have come to HATE change. . . or your failure with change. In today's post learn what works.Read More
It’s the time of year in the US when we all remember to give thanks for our many blessings. It’s a good practice. Yet, it seems to me that since gratitude is so powerful and important, designating only one day a year to giving thanks is not enough!
Find out why it's important to share gratitude every day.Read More
I bet when you were dating you could hardly keep your hands off each other. Any time you saw each other was a great opportunity for (at least) hugs and kisses. Yet, many of the couples that seek my services for relationship coaching hardly touch each other anymore. They barely look up from their games or electronic gadgets, or from their work, when the other walks in or out. How sad! No wonder they tell me they are not "in love" anymore! Want to feel in love again? The key is to express more affection, both emotionally and physically. Today we are going to talk about the physical side of expressing affection.Read More
Hope is one of those words that brings a lot of good feelings. When people become hopeless they get depressed, “lose heart,” “give up.” Some even want to die. No case of suicide has ever happened because the person had too much hope. Without hope you don’t take action on anything, much less tackle change. Hope get you up in the morning. As a couple, hope makes you stay together, strategize and act upon your dreams and goals.
So hope is good. . . right? Well. . . kind of. . . You see, hope can also derail you. . .Read More
I love fall! Every year I revel in the striking beauty that is autumn. We are just starting the season and I'm already anticipating what is to come: the glorious colors displaying nature’s color palette, enhanced by the sunlight. The deep reds, the vibrant oranges, the lively yellows, the array of greens, and the earthy browns formed a collage of colors showing a bountiful variety. Together they demonstrated the beauty of fall.What do the colors of fall have to do with your relationships?
On this blog I share how differences can be celebrated instead of becoming a source of conflict and negativity.Read More
Relationships can be messy. Many couples get in a negative spiral that has taken them so deeply down that they have lost hope. If you are one of these people, keep reading. This post is especially for you.Read More
We have the ability to communicate our thoughts in real time. We don’t need to plan what we’re going to say beforehand. That is great when we are brainstorming, or when there is an emergency and we need to issue a warning. It can be a problem when what we say on the spur of the moment is something we later wish we had either not said, or said differently.Read More