ONLY 8% OF PEOPLE ACHIEVE THEIR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS. HERE'S HOW YOU CAN DO IT TOO.
Let me guess: You want to lose weight in 2018, or just eat healthier. Perhaps you want to spend less money or spend more time with your friends and family. Maybe you want to stop screaming and have a closer relationship with your partner instead. Whatever it is, Self-improvement, or at least the desire for it, is a shared American hobby.
Estimates say more than 40% of Americans make New Year's resolutions. But for all the good intentions, only a tiny fraction keep their resolutions. University of Scranton research suggests that just 8% of people achieve their New Year's goals.
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Basically, the biggest reasons New Year's Resolutions don't stick is either because they are too general and unclear, because you are not totally committed to change, or because you don't understand your own "success glass ceiling" which affects you at every level of success.
When you want to change and feel you can't, you feel stuck, and Stuck Sucks! Do you feel you are. . .
- Too busy to focus on your own development?
- Fearful of jumping to the next level of intimacy?
- Dealing with too much stress and pressure?
- Tired of failing?
These are just a few examples of habits of mind that can result in “relationship suicide” even for the most capable professional.
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Imagine if you could change the way you think and act by easily rewiring some of your brain pathways. Imagine you are practicing for the opening of a great car race. You are checking and checking your car's mechanism and your mental status, perfecting your runs so that on race day you become a great force to contend with, unstoppable!
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You can change anything and you can start right now!
Have you been trying to change instead of actually changing? What keeps you stuck are old habits of mind. Brain scan studies have PROVEN you can RESET and strengthen the key areas in your brain that control your conscious AND subconscious...and every personal and business decision you make. This requires applying your whole brain – training methodologies, technologies AND feelings – in the right way...so you can replace limiting beliefs, behaviors, and habits that are currently keeping you stuck.
There are 5 easy life-changing strategies you need to apply in order to succeed with change. These are important, powerful strategies for making change easier and effective. They will help you get to transformation. To make it easier to remember, I have used the acronym RESET.
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Here is what each of the strategies include:
Readiness: The first step on getting started in reinventing yourself is knowing where you are in the continuum of readiness. If you are just contemplating change, it’s useless to make a specific resolution for change. You need to be convinced that you need to change NOW. Your mind has to be ready to make a focused, no barrels hold, commitment to change. The clearer you are about the change you want to make, the easier it will be.
Eliminate: Fear, negativity, and uncertainty. They are roadblocks in the transformation journey. Instead, use the power of your imagination and dream boldly. You have to see yourself exhibiting the new mentality and behaviors and what is possible. Taste the success. Dream big. Enjoy fully, not only the end result, but every step of the way.
Strategize: Change requires work, but it has to be intelligent work, not just busy work. That’s why you need a strategy. To achieve real behavior change, and facilitate the strengthening of the connections in your brain, you have to know how to set and pursue goals with decisive action and focus. The more simple and clear you make your strategy the easier it will be to change.
It's more sensible to set "small, attainable goals throughout the year, rather than a singular, overwhelming goal," according to psychologist Lynn Bufka. "Remember, it is not the extent of the change that matters, but rather the act of recognizing that lifestyle change is important and working toward it, one step at a time," Bufka adds.
Engage fully: Refers to engaging both sides of your brain for successful change. First, you need to plan carefully. This engages your analytical side. A good specific plan facilitates success.
"A resolution to lose some weight is not that easy to follow," notes Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist.
"It is much easier to follow a plan that says no potato chips, fries, or ice cream for six weeks."
And be specific. Don't say you're "going to start going to the gym" in 2018—set a clear ambition, like attending a weekly spin class or lifting weights every Tuesday or Thursday.
"We say if you can't measure it, it's not a very good resolution because vague goals beget vague resolutions," says John Norcross of the University of Scranton.
Second, listen to, understand, and consider your emotions, finding ways to make them your ally instead of your enemy. This relates to your intuitive side and your emotional centers. It includes finding social support and making yourself accountable. Share your goals with your friends and family. It's another way to build accountability. Or participate in a FB group in which everyone shares their goals and the strategies that are helping them achieve them.
Time and Action: Hang in there! To be successful at changing anything you need time and action to keep repeating the new behavior, no matter how difficult it is, until it is not hard anymore. Don’t stop until it becomes easy, until it becomes an automatic habit. That is the only way to reset your brain creating new patterns, new habits, a new mindset, a new future! You also need to believe in your success every day, so you will not give up.
To be clear: Simply setting a goal does raise your chances of achieving that goal, significantly.
But within weeks or months, people begin abandoning their resolutions as they hit bumps in the road that throw them off their stride.
More often than not, people who fail to keep their resolutions blame their own lack of willpower. In surveys, these would-be resolvers repeatedly say that if only they had more self-determination, they would've overcome any hurdles and achieved their goals.
But writing at the Los Angeles Times, Berdik points to an emerging body of research that willpower is malleable. In one study led by a Stanford University psychologist, scientists gauged whether test subjects believed they could exhaust their willpower, and sought to convince them otherwise. The researchers found that people "performed better or worse [on tests] depending on their belief in the durability of willpower."
That's where your "change glass ceiling" comes into play. You have as much willpower as you think you have, essentially. Which means that on some level, your journey toward self-improvement will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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You will not only learn how to RESET your mind, I will take you by the hand and show you how it works. You will get away from limiting beliefs, and learn to think and act like a successful professional so you can develop the habits of mind that will let you craft the business and life you want.
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This is a great New Year's investment for yourself and your relationship!
Here's hoping that 2018 will be a joyful one for you and a year where you get one step closer to becoming the person and the partner that you want to be.