Every relationship is shaped by conversations.
Some create distance.
Others create understanding.
The conversations you have every day determine whether you drift apart or grow closer.
When you learn to transform your conversations, you don't just solve problems.
You build the kind of relationship where both people feel understood, respected, and deeply connected.
That's the power of Relationship Intelligence™.
Through the CONNECT™ Method, you'll learn how to use conversations to:
Most relationship problems aren't caused by a lack of love.
They're caused by repeating the same unhealthy patterns—often without even realizing it.
The topic changes. The pattern doesn't.
When you learn to recognize those patterns and develop Relationship Intelligence™, everything begins to change.
Instead of reacting...
you begin understanding.
Instead of drifting apart...
you become a stronger team.
Instead of surviving your relationship...
you learn how to help it flourish.
Through the CONNECT™ Method you'll learn how to use conversations to:
Connect.
Collaborate.
Create lasting change.
Good relationships don't fall apart overnight.
They drift apart one conversation at a time.
But they can also be rebuilt...
one conversation at a time.
I help high-achieving couples develop the Relationship Intelligence™ to understand themselves, understand each other, and transform the conversations that shape their relationship.
Because understanding changes everything.
Discover proven strategies to:
communicate so you both get your needs met.
interrupt patterns of conflict to benefit your relationship.
deepen the friendship, intimacy, and fun in your marriage.
recover the "heads over heels in love" feelings.
enjoy an awesome sex life.
be real connected partners in all areas of life and love.
After working with Dr. Ada, couples say things like:
-Dr. Ada helped us turn our relationship around.
-We know now how to interrupt conflict so we don’t become mean.
-Now we can communicate well most of the time.
-Dr. Ada really cared about us and understood our needs.
In this short video Dr. Ada reflects about the power of conversations for connecting, collaborating, and creating change.
I’m Dr. Ada Gonzalez, a Relationship and Transformation Specialist with a Ph.D. in Interdisciplinary Studies and am also licensed as a marriage and family therapist. For more than 30 years I have been helping hurting couples. I offer my 8-components CONNECT™ Method: Relationship Reset System, a Relationship Intelligence Mastery Structured Experience for High-Achieving Couples Who Want More Than Professional Success—They Want to develop an Intimate Heart Connection. You can reset and stabilize your relationship dynamic so that your relationship becomes aligned, responsive, and sustainable again.
Don’t look for a different relationship. Transform the one you have!
Programs & Retreats
Our Transformative Conversations Programs and Retreats will lead you to new ways of interacting, thinking, and behaving. The result will be a fresh connection and an extraordinary daily love life. You will find and keep the spark of passion and love!
DIY Program
From Bickering to Understanding: Effective Communication Strategies For Lovers A 6 weeks self-directed program for couples that want to have effective communication and get out of negativity. Includes videos, guides for dialogue, summaries, and more.
Relationship RESET Systems
Through Relationship Resets you can stop bickering and transform the challenges you are experiencing into growth and intimacy.
The programs offered will change the course of your marriage. See which one is the best fit for you!
Couple’s retreat
Relationship Retreats are for couples who want to spend a concentrated time working on their relationships. Whether it be for focused help to address especially difficult situations, or more of an enrichment option, retreats offer several days of concentrated help and special interaction.
relationship Conversations
My one-on-one Relationship Conversations high end signature program creates the structure and the support that gives you the space to explore what is really going on inside you and your relationship. It's totally individualized to your needs. It require a commitment to at least 6-8 months of high end coaching.
Dr. Ada is a Licensed Mariage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
For more information about what this means, go to the About Page.
Underneath all the issues, partners are asking each other: Can I count on you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me? In difficult times, you need to invest in your most important relationship.
Your relationship deserves your attention!
Proven Results
“Dr. Ada was able to quickly detect what was wrong and then helped us find the best path going forward. The counseling met and surpassed our expectations and we felt very comfortable with her relaxed and informal style. We are now in a much better place as a family.”
— The Smiths
what clients say
Gracias por tantos consejos que usted nos diera años atrás. Fueron determinantes en nuestras vidas. 45+ años después, seguimos juntos mi esposo y yo, con mucho amor, comprensión, respeto, agradecimiento, etc.
Thanks for the counseling you gave us many years ago. It was determinant in our lives. 45+ years after, my husband and I are still together with much love, understanding, respect, thankfulness, etc.
–Isabel y Jorge
You can check some more of the comments that couples have made about our Relationship Coaching and Programs. To preserve the identity of the couples we will share only their first names.
“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.”
