For the past 30 years I have worked with people in relationships. I help people navigate important life transitions and safely conquer new challenges, while balancing togetherness and individual growth.
I bring my personal experience through a failed marriage and a very happy second marriage to help you find your own happiness. I also bring extensive professional knowledge and research, and more than 30 years of professional practice. I love helping people solve breakdowns in dialogue and relationships and find joy and peace.
I use my expertise as a licensed marriage and family therapist to open safe spaces for nurturing transformative conversations that facilitate growth and change. As a result, stress, confusion, and conflict are minimized. You will have more positive energy to create the future you want.
Once a positive dialogue is established, people attest that positive interactions increase, genuine connections are formed, and their happiness and joy show it. I have done this in more than 20 countries on 3 continents, thanks to my bi-lingual heritage in English and Spanish. I have enabled thousands of couples and individuals to make lasting changes in their lives and families.
My main passion and mission in life is to assist individuals, couples, and families to re-discover the power of conversations for connecting with their hearts and finding joy. You can discover how commitment and personal responsibility will help you learn to enjoy better communication and connection.
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (licensed in Delaware and Texas). I have a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior, with an emphasis on change processes and dialogue from Union Institute & University. I have taught Human Development for Concordia University and Family Counseling, Cognitive and Behavioral Change Theories, Psychology of Women, Parenting, and Adult Development for Indiana University and Andrews University. My Master is in Educational and Developmental Psychology, from Andrews University, and I was trained as psychotherapist in collaborative language systems at the Houston-Galveston Institute.
Top: Dr. Ada relaxing in Rudesheim, by the Rhine, in Germany
Bottom: Dr. Ada and husband Roger enjoying time together
WHEN I'M NOT COACHING PEOPLE TO CHANGE. . .
I like to juggle work, travel, spirituality, photography, fun, mind stretching pursuits, music, crafts, and friendships. Better yet if I can combine several of them at once! I love traveling anywhere, and by any means, sometimes with no place in particular as my destination. I especially enjoy spending time with my 2 adult sons and their loved ones (who have certainly challenged me to keep growing!).
Because I was born in an island, never far from the ocean, I get my best ideas and spend my best moments in life by the sea, lulled by the sound of the surf. If that is not feasible, any body of water would do for me. Maybe the combination of change and predictability found in the waves and waterways, together with the constancy and rhythm that carves change one small step at a time is what calls to me. It helps me to better think about and understand the process of change.
I STRONGLY BELIEVE. . .
you were born to be in relations, and to change and grow throughout your life!
you have a natural path for relating to others and for change. Discovering that natural path facilitates relationships and change, while ignoring it can set you up for failure.
your brain is capable of learning and evolving all through the life cycle.
you can turn conflict into collaboration if you put your effort into it and learn the skills to make it possible.
you are worth more than most people believe. Knowing your value can inspire you to give your best to your relationships and to continue to change and grow.
you need to understand change and relationships as a holistic process that encompasses mind, body, spirit, and emotions.
you need to envision how you want you and your relationships to be. Then align your vision with your heart’s meaning system, and take decisive action toward your goals.
you change more easily in collaboration with others.
You can only change and grow if you face the truth. This means to. . .
face what needs to be faced,
see what needs to be seen,
hear what needs to be heard, feel what needs to be felt,
and do what needs to be done. No ifs, ands, or buts allowed.
Works every time!