May was mental health awareness month

May was mental health awareness month

With Mental Health Awareness Month coming to an end, I thought I could share a few helpful tips for couples to take care of their mental health. Happy brain, happy relationship! 

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The best antidote to fear

The best antidote to fear

We seem to leave in a world that promotes fear. Learn what can be the best antidote to prevent fear and enhance your life and relaitonships.

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    How to set up a goal setting process that actually works

    How to set up a goal setting process that actually works

    Yes, this blog is about goal setting again! It's part of my mini-series about change.  But don't freak out! And don't go away!  I’m not repeating the same old stuff you’ve already seen many times the first week of this new year.

    Most people think that goal setting is all about thinking what they want to accomplish this year. Then, write it down, and work backwards to create mini goals to make them actionable. Well yes. . . sort of. . . That's part of it. But the problem is that people work at this backwards. That's the last part. So, stay with me and things will become clear. 

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    Only 8% of people are successful at change. Are you one of them?

    Only 8% of people are successful at change. Are you one of them?

    Let me guess: You want to lose weight in 2018, or just eat healthier. Perhaps you want to spend less money or spend more time with your friends and family. Maybe you want to stop screaming and have a closer relationship with your partner instead. Whatever it is, Self-improvement, or at least the desire for it, is a shared American hobby.

    Estimates say more than 40% of Americans make New Year's resolutions.  But for all the good intentions, only a tiny fraction keep their resolutions. University of Scranton research suggests that just  8% of people achieve their New Year's goals.

    You can be included on that 8%. This blogs explains how.

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    The Greatest Gift

    The Greatest Gift

    Do you remember what was the greatest gift you ever got? Dr. Ada tells about her greatest gift and shares a poem.

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    Are you committed to change?

    Are you committed to change?

    Many people seek me because they want to change. Yet, not all of them are ready to change. Even the words you use when talking about change can have an impact on how ready you are to change and with being successful with change. Your vocabulary impacts your attitudes and actions. When it comes to change, words can make a huge difference. 

    Most people are not really committed to change. They commit just to try. . . And that doesn't work!  

    Find out what does work!

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    Me? Do I need to change anything?

    Me? Do I need to change anything?

    Many times we talk about our desire to change. As the last month of the year progresses, we start taking inventory and thinking about what we need to change in the new year. We go back and forth between wanting to change and dreading the idea of change. You know deep down there are some things you really need to change, but how do you get ready to change? How can you get to that transformation that will signal you have really changed? It's really a lot easier to focus on what your partner needs to change!

    Today's blog focuses on how to get ready for change.

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    Why change doesn't work

    Why change doesn't work

    We are starting the last month of the year. As the year starts unwinding to it’s end, we tend to become more contemplative of our life and work. We take inventory. We weight opportunities. We think about change. . .

    Unfortunately, after many years of doing the same, making new resolutions for the new year, and failing at them, many give up on change and on themselves. If you are like them, you think about change, but have come to HATE change. . . or your failure with change. In today's post learn what works.

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    Share Gratitude

    Share Gratitude

    It’s the time of year in the US when we all remember to give thanks for our many blessings. It’s a good practice. Yet, it seems to me that since gratitude is so powerful and important, designating only one day a year to giving thanks is not enough!  

    Find out why it's important to share gratitude every day.

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    Affection: The key to feeling you are "in love"

    Affection: The key to feeling you are "in love"

    I bet when you were dating you could hardly keep your hands off each other. Any time you saw each other was a great opportunity for (at least) hugs and kisses. Yet, many of the couples that seek my services for relationship coaching hardly touch each other anymore. They barely look up from their games or electronic gadgets, or from their work, when the other walks in or out. How sad! No wonder they tell me they are not "in love" anymore! Want to feel in love again? The key is to express more affection, both emotionally and physically. Today we are going to talk about the physical side of expressing affection.

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    Hope. . . good or bad?

    Hope. . . good or bad?

    Hope is one of those words that brings a lot of good feelings. When people become hopeless they get depressed, “lose heart,” “give up.” Some even want to die. No case of suicide has ever happened because the person had too much hope. Without hope you don’t take action on anything, much less tackle change. Hope get you up in the morning. As a couple, hope makes you stay together, strategize and act upon your dreams and goals. 

    So hope is good. . . right? Well. . . kind of. . . You see, hope can also derail you. . .

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    Celebrate your differences!

    Celebrate your differences!

    I love fall! Every year I revel in the striking beauty that is autumn. We are just starting the season and I'm already anticipating what is to come: the glorious colors displaying nature’s color palette, enhanced by the sunlight. The deep reds, the vibrant oranges, the lively yellows, the array of greens, and the earthy browns formed a collage of colors showing a bountiful variety. Together they demonstrated the beauty of fall.What do the colors of fall have to do with your relationships?

    On this blog I share how differences can be celebrated instead of becoming a source of conflict and negativity. 

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    Are you "hard of listening?"

    Are you "hard of listening?"

    Some people are hard of hearing, but many more are hard of listening. In this blogpost you will find out why!

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    Does Your Relationship Needs Urgent Repair? Save Your Relationship!

    Does Your Relationship Needs Urgent Repair? Save Your Relationship!

    Relationships can be messy. Many couples get in a negative spiral that has taken them so deeply down that they have lost hope. If you are one of these people, keep reading. This post is especially for you.

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    Don't Open Your Mouth!

    Don't Open Your Mouth!

    We have the ability to communicate our thoughts in real time. We don’t need to plan what we’re going to say beforehand. That is great when we are brainstorming, or when there is an emergency and we need to issue a warning. It can be a problem when what we say on the spur of the moment is something we later wish we had either not said, or said differently.

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    7 Simple Summer ideas for strengthening your relationship

    7 Simple Summer ideas for strengthening your relationship

    You can’t force your relationship to be better or change the other person. But, there are things you can do which can help your relationship improve and stay healthy. Here are 7 simple ideas that can be helpful. Hopefully these will spark your creativity and you can add many more to enjoy over the Summer months.

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    Reclaiming Intimacy: 5 Pointers for more satisfaction

    Reclaiming Intimacy: 5 Pointers for more satisfaction

    One of the recurrent issues couples complain about is diminishing intimacy. And by that, they usually mean less time, frequency, and satisfaction with their sexual life. Today I want to give you a few ideas for rekindling your intimacy.

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    3 Common communication mistakes that hurt your relationship

    3 Common communication mistakes that hurt your relationship

    Many couples have communication problems. Here are the three most common mistakes couples make.

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    How to keep your Joy in the midst of the holiday craze

    How to keep your Joy in the midst of the holiday craze

    Seven simple and short suggestions for making your life easier during the holidays.

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    What to do when things are not going your way

    What to do when things are not going your way

    It's easy to be happy when things are going your way. But what to do when they are not? Is it ok to mope, make a tantrum, say hurtful things, or stop talking for a week?  

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